I can’t help but feel life requires submission,
not submissive behaviour but rather at certain instances or stages it requires us all to yield…
I feel the need to be specific in making it clear ALL beings at some point no matter how strong or independent will have to give way to something or someone at some point in life in order to evolve ones character or disposition. By no means does this suggest a women or a man should enter into or stay within an abusive relationship or position at work.
We could look and talk about ego from different perspectives, psychological, spiritual or religious. The submission I speak of is more a letting go of ego, to not allow yourself to be influenced by other people or what society regards as right but instead consider taking a step back, and really asking yourself what is right for ME. What is right for me is going to be slightly different for each of us because we’re individuals, I’ve heard it said if a path or decision no longer serves you then simply change your path or make a new decision.
This can be difficult for all of us for many reasons, if we have made an important life choice based on fear, which snow balls out of control putting the breaks on can seem as though it will only make our situation worse. Having the strength to say “this isn’t right for me any more, this situation no longer serves me” is pivotal in a persons journey of self knowledge/ happiness. Giving in to the best path for ourselves is a fearless act one that doesn’t always seem to initially benefit everyone around us, however I believe the long term affects of people making better life choices on a mass scale has the potential of benefiting and positively progressing the whole of humanity.
This hasn’t just occurred to me out of the blue, its something that has been lurking at the back of my mind, seeping to the forefront as my mind opens, my eyes taking in examples from life as it plays out in front of me. Other people knowingly or unknowingly through action accept or deny the opportunity to give way to their ego.
I didn’t want to go straight to the example of true love only because it seems so obvious, but lets look at it briefly.
It’s been said that submission is an act of true love, I personally believe this is widely mis-interpreted. Not because it’s a false statement but because I believe people too readily try to love others before they love themselves. Giving in or submitting to true love in relation to another person can be a liberating experience if we have first given way to loving ourselves. Have you given in to yourself, truly looked at what you want and despite what others think of your decisions just went for it. Have you been kind to yourself, accepted the good with the not so good, none of us are perfect, we all shout, moan a bit. Giving in to yourself allows room for personal growth, to be able to smile or laugh each day at how silly we’ve been, it gives us the opportunity to yield to others instead of allowing our ego to create distance through unexplained actions and misunderstood statements. If you love yourself you submit to all the different parts of who you really are, there is no hiding or denying yourself because you fear peoples reactions or the loss of friendships.
Unfortunately people enter relationships thinking another person will make them whole, better, a new person. Yielding to another without loving yourself could possibly lead to an imbalance within the relationship, the other person could soon resent the role of making you ‘perfect’, being the stronger person or even worse mistreat you. I say all this having made the mistake before, unwittingly I looked for a person who would ‘make me better’ when in fact I was the only one who could do this by accepting myself.
So letting go of our ego’s control over us could possibly make for a more peaceful frame of mind, there is a part of you that wants to act a little wild or go a little crazy, doing something that makes your heart race. But then there is a voice, makes you second guess what you want; how will you look if you do that, people will laugh at you. Start off small think it through but don’t give way to the scared voice within. You don’t have to be hugely death defying in your actions, it could be simply pushing yourself to make new friends or skinny dipping on holiday 😀 it doesn’t require you to jump out of an aeroplane, although you could if you’d like. Kudos to anyone who skydives or bungy jumps, you wouldn’t get me doing it in a month of Sundays or a blue moon. I might streak if there was ever a blue moon, skinny dipping makes me giggle.
And so I guess I would encourage you to yield to the lighter side of life,
love yourself… sounds easy doesn’t it,
it’s a challenge in fact, it will take practice,
be kind in how you treat yourself,
it emanates out to the people that surround you,
and they will benefit from your love and long term happiness.